Of the Sun and the Avaricious and Envious Man

I know I have been slipping hard on the beloved fables of Aesop. Sue me lol!

Anyway, this is one of my favorites!

Of the Sun and the Avaricious and Envious Man

So great is the envy of some persons that they actually wish to endure harm so that others might suffer greater discomforts, as this fable tells.

Soveriegn Jupiter sent someone from his lofty throne to the sun to find out the unscrupulous wishes of men. At that time two persons came before the sun: one was avaricious, the other envious.

To them the sun said: "What would you like to ask for? Declare it in the knowledge that what you ask for first will be granted. The second thing you ask for will be doubled and given."

Hearing this, the avaricious man wanted the envious to ask first so that the avaricious man might have the same thing doubled, since he thought that the envious one would ask for riches.

The envious one, hearing this and considering what the avaricious man was to recieve doubled, was not able to restrain his envy, and so he asked that he have an eye taken out, because then they would take two from the greedy man.

The sun, seeing this, smiled at both and went up to jupiter and told him to what extent envy reigns amongst men: many wished to dangers so that their neighbors might endure greater evils and harm.

What joy it gives the petty and tarnished to have companions in their ills and misfortunes!

Be careful who you deal with. If they are envious of you they will never stop until they bring you down.

Would you get married after only knowing someone for a short period of time?

Interesting question. Many people say that most women are always ready to settle down. Not the ones that i've talked to lol. Most believe this but actually it's the men that are more willing to marry quicker than the women in this day and age because he needs someone to come home to so he can worry about other things in his life like being more productive in his career and achieving his other goals in life (or having someone to build and grow with). In this day and age the Black woman has a rough time finding a good partner because many black men are unemployed or underemployed, (many white men are too by the way) so he can't adeuately take care of his woman and child, or if they have any money at all they might not have any morals or kindness at all. But the black women's downfall is her low expectations and her unwilingness to hold back her scolding tongue sometimes. John Henrik Clarke, the late great historian and cultural critic said, her sharp tongue has driven more men from the home then poverty. Most women don't know that's it's easier to catch fly's with honey than with vinegar (my grandmother used to say).

But anyway, would YOU be willing to marry someone after only knowing them for a short period of time if you thought that your union could REALLY work?

Holla!!!!!!!!!!!!

INTRODUCING THE WONDERFUL AND MAGNIFISCENT AESOP'S FABLES THURSDAY CELEBRATION!

Since a lot of people (particularly Black women) think i'm dumb lol, at least on Thursday I'll be able to provide some insight from a wonderful source of information on the real workings of human nature AESOP!

So from now on i will publish one of Aesop's beloved fables every thursday to remind us of some of the things that human beings do (regardless of what they say) that we all should be aware of.

Here's how it's going to go. I'll start off with the story then i'll give the original moral of the story, then i'll give my take on the story (sorry) that will probably relate to someof the conditions that Black people face as a whole (i really am sorry)

So we'll start off on the first ever AESOP'S FABLES THURSDAY (YAY WOO HOOO, YES, YES, YES) with one of my dear favorite fables:

THE BUTCHER AND THE FLOCK

Relatives, friends or mates (black men and black women) who cannot agree with one another will come to a bad end, as the following fable tells us.

Some castrated sheep had been gathered together in a flock with the rams. Although the sheep realized that the butcher had come into the flock, they pretended not to see him.

Even when they saw one of their own seized by the butcher's deadly hands and taken away to be slaughtered, still the sheep were not afraid. Foolishly, they said to one another, 'He keeps his hands off me, he keeps his hands off you; let him take whom he takes.'

In the end, there was only one sheep left. This is what he reportedly said to the butcher when he saw that he too was about to be taken away: 'We deserve to be slaughtered one after another since we didn't realize what was happening until it was too late.

The fact is, as soon as we saw you here in our midst, back when we were all together, we should have killed you at once by smashing you between our horns.'

This fable shows that people who do not keep an eye out for their own safety will be utterly destroyed by evil.

For he that wylle not helpe ne comforte other / ought not to demaunde or aske helpe ne comforte / For vertue whiche is vyned is better than vertue separate
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Many blacks think that we can watch members of our race get assaulted and used by the system and think that nothing is going to happen to us.

Time will tell.

When will we learn?

The following is for mature self-respecting black people who are tired of others getting away with unjustly mistreating us.

"there's more of us then them"
TUPAC SHAKUR

" Any police officer can shoot and kill any member of our community with impunity. They don’t mind doing it because they get a paid vacation when they do so. We have to create a security force with our own weapons, our own strategies and tactics, our own internal protection against any group of men who unfairly assaults any member of our group."

James Tubman

Comment i made from 7 Responsibilities Every Man Has To Fulfill In Life. Am I wrong about this?

Normally i don't talk about issues in the news because i don't let the media focus my attention on what they think i should be thinking about. But unfortunately this story got to me not necessarily because of the heinous nature of the crime (which we shouldn't be surprised about) but because of the typical response of our leadership (click here to read an account of the trial)

Everyday police officers unlawfully assault or murder members of our community. And almost everytime there is a major murder or assault committed against a member of our community, and the officers are prosecuted for their crimes, they are acquitted.

The local, state and federal governments have ignored or instigated the unjust treatment of our black men in the inner cities by policemen. They have turned a deaf ear to the cries, moans and harangues of the women crying in the streets after a police man has murdered their unarmed child in cold blood.

What do you do when the governement that you pledge allegiance to, that you travel to far away places to kill and labor for, that you swear to uphold and defend with your very life wants you dead? Sounds like an exaggeration right lol?

If you look at the census for a given year and look at the race of men that have been most frequently assaulted and killed by the police, you will find that the men that were killed were over 95% black. How do you explain this?

You mean white people never try to assault a cop or resist arrest? Do you watch cops lol? It happens all the time. Why don't you hear about white men being killed as frequently as black men by policemen?

How do you make a government that fails to see your humanity listen to you when you are being mistreated by them and they have basically gave a segment of the community a free pass to kill you if they want?

Please answer this question in the best way you possibly can.

Who is the celebrity, athlete, musician, actor, politician, activist, scholar you look up to the most?

We can tell a lot about ourselves based on the people we look up to. My favorite guy of all time is a man that many of you have never even heard of.

AMOS WILSON

Within the last 5 years of my life no other human being on earth has had more of a profound influence on my thinking than Dr. Amos Wilson. An afrocentric psychologists who analyzes european racism and how it still affects us today. He basically postulates that the problems that we have today in education, in our relationships, in the slums of the inner city, in the criminal justice system are due in part to racism and in part to the economic changes that are going on in the world with the rise of the asian world.

He believes that Afrikans from all over the continent are the same and should have the same goals in mind because the same plan the powers that be have for afrikan americans is the same plan they have for afrikans all over the world.

I won't go on and on about him. He has written lectures about everything under the sun from what real Afrikan manhood is, to understanding black male/female relationships in america.

He is one of the greatest Pan-Afrikanists the world ever produced and he wrote the masterpiece

BLUEPRINT FOR BLACK POWER

an 856 page description on how we can attain educational, political and economic power in the world (and after a year and a half I read every single one of those pages).

here's a sample of his work (I want the guys to look at this)

disclaimer: WARNING views are extreeeeeeemly controversial. View at your own risk of WAKING UP!

LOL

Extreemly controversial isn't it.

But anyway, let me know who your favorite is. I don't want you to be influeced by this at all lol (impossible).

Just please, do your best!

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Tough question because we are so used to thinking in the present. It's a question we need to ask ourselves though because what we do now will have an effect on where we are in 5 years, in 50 years and where our children are in 500 years. We often don't think about how what we do now has an impact on what happens to us later. But it is very important that we consider this sometimes. So do you want to be married with kids. Do you want to be make more and have more money to spend. Wuz up family, let a brother know!

stop settling for less in your relationships. you have the power to change your partner for the better. if you have an open mind don't be afraid to click here to learn more.

If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?

We all have some areas in our life where we would like to be better than what we are. Even for the person who claims to be so perfect. So what would it be in your case? If you could change one thing in your life in an instant what would it be. Would it be your hair color, your pot belly (sorry) or something different. Something intangible like your nagging ways or your inability to stand by a decision. Let me know. I'm all ears literally lol (i do have will smith and martin lawrence ears but i don't wanna hear any satellite jokes, dumbo jokes or none of that).

stop settling for less in your relationships. you have the power to change your partner for the better. if you have an open mind don't be afraid to click here to learn more.

ORAL SEX DEBATE!

Disclaimer : Sexual contents are below and not suitable for those under the age of 18.

EB: I'm about to put myself out here on this one... Yup Eb is going to go ahead and tell all her biz. But I got questions, and we're all grown folks here... so let's talk about it.

First of all, a lot of people still can't believe that their are black men that don't eat p*ssy and black women that don't give head. I for one can because I have dealt with a man who didn't and I have a complex about giving head.

So here goes, I lost my virginity in high school, but always promised myself that I would never give head until I was married. Thought that was the least of gifts I could give to the man I would be with for the rest of my life since I wasn't a virgin, but he would know that he was the only man that I have ever pleasured in that way. Seems like good logic right? Maybe?

Anyway, in college I met the guy I thought I was going to marry. I was so headover heels for this undeserving guy it was sickening. He cheated constantly and I thought it was because I wasn't giving head. Like the saying goes "if you don't do it, he will find someone that will."

Senior Year in college, I finally indulged in the forbidden territory with this dude. In the 2 years after that we were off an on so I think I only did it once or twice more.

The complex comes in me doing it for someone that wasn't worthy may be the psychology behind the reason that I now I will only do it for a dude I love. Everyone always says after you've done it once it should be nothing to do it often. I ain't trying to hear that. I think its not something you do for every Tom, Dick, Harry, or Jumpoff. With this thinking am I putting "giving head" on a pedestal? Is it not that big of a deal? What is the man's perception of a female who does it that they are not in a monogamous relationship with? How soon is too soon to go there with a man, and when have you waited too long? Is this the reason why our brothers are going to other races because they have a more nonchalant attitude about giving head?

Also the bonus questions... What constitutes giving good head? How do you as men like it to be done? I ask this because someone that is inexperience in this department wants to know. I remember I was drunk one night and did it for the guy above and the next morning he had a complete attitude with me. I don't know what I did the night before, because I couldn't remember (yeah I was that drunk) but he wanted to know who the hell I had been practicing on, so I guess it was good to him. So back to the questions that started this little paragraph... answers men...Also for the men that don't eat p*ssy, explain why? Or if you do explain why their might be a complex about doing it from the male perspective.

TUBS Response

Why don't some men and women give head?

Because not everybody washes their ass right lol. And some people actually have enough self-respect not to do it. And some people don't like it done to them. If you know what you doing then me likey. If you don't, make it wet and we'll go from there.

Seems like logic right?

Good logic and very thoughtful too. Men are not going to have respect for you if you give it up too easy.

That guy must have been a stud. And you probably just wanted him so you can look good to others and make the women hate you lol.

He didn't cheat because you didn't give him head though.

He cheated for a number of reasons that I'll talk about in my audiobook: Getting Over The Drama: A Black Man Who Knows Something Answers 10 Critical Questions About Our Relationships (sorry for the shameless self promotion lol)

EB: DEFINITELY A SHAMELESS PLUG, BUT ITS ALL GOOD TUBS

I am positive he felt bad about it every time he did it. Didn't want to feel that way so he tried to justify it by cheating some more

Am I putting giving head on a pedastool?

Yes! And it deserves to be there, because if you don't show self respect people will walk all over you. And you always show self respect by doing what's right, as opposed to doing what feels good or makes you look good. Men don't show self respect when they sleep around. They catch feelings for one of the women they slept with and now they are wondering why she won't return his calls or want to be with him.

What is the man's perception of a female who does it that they are not in a monogamous relationship with?

That she's easy and she doesn't deserve respect because she doesn't respect herself. But, that goes for the guys too. Women will NOT respect you, they might want that d#*k, but that's not respect. A black man is more than just a breeding animal. He has feelings, thoughts, passions, wishes, purposes, likes, dislikes and desires just like anybody else. And all of these things will not be respected if he gives it up too easy.

How soon is too soon to go there with a man, and when have you waited too long?

Yo no se about this e, it depends on the nature of the relationship and how much you know on the issue of relationships (in my humble opinion (dappa)). You should wait till you've been together a long time (ideally). Now you can always say the right things and DO the right things to get that person to respect you more in the future after you did it (check in the audiobook).

However, when you know for a fact that you 2 are in LOVE and not infatuation then you can do it. But not too many times because men and women want head for different reasons that don't always relate to sex. Sometimes it's about domination and control. Sometimes it's about something else

Is this the reason why our brothers are going to other races because they have a more nonchalant attitude about giving head?

There are many reasons for this as well e. Men, just like women, tend to want what is easy until it becomes too easy. They might have that white women but more than likely they are cheating on her with black women (unless they are afraid of black women). Things are getting too long so I'll just say this. The main reason black men want white women is because they have always seen the white woman as a symbol of beauty ever since they was young. Some guys act on this belief. Some don't.

What constitutes giving good head? How do you as men like it to be done?

Technique is what's important. I've read some material on this and one book said that the most sensitive part of man's penis is where he was circumcised. So if you suck around the cusp of the penis then you'll really get him going. I like the tipping lol (whatever they call it) where the woman sucks on the tip of the penis girating her tongue back and forth through the slit with the whole head in her while she strokes the shaft. That's definitely a good way lol.

Also for the men that don't eat p*ssy, explain why? Or if you do explain why their might be a complex about doing it from the male perspective.

I've been eating pu#*y for a looooooong time so it's nothing for me. I'll generally do it the first time (which might explain why I haven't had much success with women) if she smells like sanitation (like biggy says) because I don't feel good unless I give a woman an orgasm. Now some it might take a little extra time for. But for most it won't.

Now for the guys who don't do it, I have no idea lol. This will be pure speculation. I assume they think it's nasty or they just believe that they are the s*#t and don't think that they have to do it or they are waiting for the right one to do it for themselves.

Oral Sex or Not!

This is a highly debated issue. I think we should look at its purpose.

What is the purpose?

I don't know lol. I guess it's to stimulate the person sexually so that an orgasm is possible.

Is oral sex good?

It sure feels good lol.

What are the benefits of oral sex?

It helps us to show our sexual partner that we are willing to go the extra mile to please themIt can help us to get perks in the relationship if the person knows how to do it right lol

What are some of the detriments of oral sex?

You could catch an STD, throat cancer whatever (even though there are cures for these diseases).

It could be used as a form of degradation and domination (people can convince their partner to perform these acts as a means of degrading them and feeding their own ego).

Where did we learn to perform these acts?

We learned from people in our lives

We learned from watching pornography (which is about degrading women through sex).

Does oral sex enhance the sexual experience?

YES! Lol

So should we do it?

In my opinion, it's OK as long as it is done mutually by both partners and not a form of domination or ego stroking.I also believe it's OK as long as proper sanitation procedures are taken lol and as long as you know the cure to ALL of the things that you might catch as a result of doing it.

So let's discuss blog world... Did TUBS give me good answers to my questions?

Do you agree or disagree, and what's your apprehensions about oral sex?

stop settling for less in your relationships. you have the power to change your partner for the better. if you have an open mind don't be afraid to click here to learn more.