What are some examples of bad situations that come up in a relationship?

Okay people I need your help please. Things are going well with my audio book but I don’t have all the answers (yes I said it lol). There are some things I just don’t see and I need the help of some brilliant, creative bloggers to see me over on some examples of when relationships turn bad.

I already got the solutions but in order to get a specific solution to a problem you have to have that specific problem. The more specific information is the easier it is to apply it. I need you to be with me right now. Give me some instances in your or someone else’s life in which a relationship took a turn for the worst (op d I need you on this because I know you have plenty lol (just kidding)). But for real holla. Don’t be scared, nobody’s going to judge you. Just give me a scenario so we can finally get this thing out and start saving our relationships!

PS you can email me at tubmansolution@gmail.com if you don't want to say it here this is completely anonymous.

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What would you do if you had a million dollars?

Deep question. You know I like asking the deep ones. What would you do? It's a lot of money and you could do a lot with it. Would you buy your dream house, dream car? Would you donate it all to charity (ha)? Would you use it to start your own business? Or invest in a friends? What would you do? Unlike the other one I'll tell you upfront with this one because this is one I've been contemplating for a long time. Some of you all know about leveraging. Say as if you want to get a loan. You can get a million dollar loan if you put up 100,000 as collateral. I would do that ten times thus giving me 10 million to use. Then i would go around town looking for he cheapest property in the black neighborhoods and i would buy the biggest cheapest buildings i could find and make them community educational centers where i show poor people how to make money easily off the Internet in real estate, investing etc. I would also have classes on how to be a good parent, how to heal yourself of incurable diseases and of course how to maintain a great relationship. I would also make the students pay fees once they start making money so that we could always have extra capital to expand into different areas all over the country. As the money grew and as i became friends with other wealthy investors I would duplicate this process in any major city where black people are and i would add on banks, credit unions, investment clubs, farm land, manufacturing plants, livestock, distribution centers with trucks and warehouses and centralize all of these resources under the umbrella of my organization then i would just keep expanding and continue helping people to get out of poverty. It's a dream but it's definitely possible.

So what would you do? Let me know.

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What would you do if you only had 24 hours to live?

So what would you do if you knew without a shadow of a doubt that you only had 24 hours until your time on this earth expired.

i'm not gonna write my comment until after i see yours (so you wont be able to cheat).

it's a deep question really because this is like the end, no turning back and you only got one day to do something that you would truly like to before you die.

so come out with it, don't hold anything back.

holla.

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So I Went To The Obama Concert Last Night In Baltimore

I was working with the community organization I'm with passing out flyer's. And while i was there i had a chance to sit down and really listen to what he had to say. He was playing all his favorite hits (yes we can, Obama, Martin Luther king lol). This guy is no dummy. He has thoroughly studied the minds of the people and he tells them what they want to hear for the most part. He said he is not paid off by anybody only the American people (ha). I almost bust out laughing when i heard that one. He said that he will not hesitate at all to go to war against those who attack us (who's trying to attack us), but in order to do that we have to give our military the best equipment and technology available. Now I understand why he said that. He's in a packed stadium with mostly Blacks but he knows without a shadow of a doubt that he needs that white vote and white politicians and white people in general have traditionally thought of Blacks as being soft on crime.

He is an astute politician but he is going to have to follow what the corporate sector tells him to do (just like any other president) because that is the force that really rules the government, the corporations and the owners of capital and wealth. Quick lesson. The people who run this country are the multi-national corporations. Whatever they say goes for the most part. They pay the politicians large substantial amounts of money to get their bills passed through congress. And everyone of those bills are giving them more access to the resources and wealth of the people. Are all of them corrupt, of course not but many of them are.

This is why Black people need to wake up and understand that power is not just in voting. It's all about money money money lol. He who pays the Piper calls the tune. We gotta pay the piper and the pipers family off to get what we need for ourselves. So if America is going to be for sale (and it is) then we are going to have to be the biggest buyers. Not just Afro-Americans but Caribbeans, Latin Americans, Africans in Europe, Africa, India (yes there are millions of Africans in India) everywhere. We are a global people and we better recognize that all of our destinies are tied in with each other. When every other ethnic group looks at us they look at all as being the same, the way they are. Whites from Brazil may look different from the ones in Australia, but they know that they are still European. It's like what a comedian said one day, the Africans in Africa are only the ones who got away lol. We are all one people and we all have one destiny: to survive lol.

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Why The Worst Rappers Get The Most Play

Do you ever wonder why the radio and televison stations only seem to play some of the most disguting, repulsive human beings on earth?

hopefully this post will give you some answers

Why the worst rappers get the most play:

1) because it distracts our attention from more important things like taking care of ourselves

many of us (including myself) have been so caught up in music and rap that we have rejected doing some necessary things in life like studying, thinking about goals we want to accomplish, dealing with personal issues, etc.

2) because for some reason white people like listening to black people say and do the vilest things (most of the people who buy hip-hop albums are white)

for some reason throughout our history in this country many white people like seeing black men acting in a savage way

when you look at hollywood then and now you’ll see this same stereotype projected in many movies, video’s etc of the black man as a savage beast unable to control his primitive urges to kill, steal, abuse women etc.

Who are these rappers that get the most play:

50 cent, the game, biggie, tupac, baby, lil wayne, souljah boy

what kind of lifestyle did they live before being a rapper:

most of them have a history of abusing their own, selling drugs to poor inner city people, spent time in prison, many of them have been brutally injured and abused (shot, stabbed), many of them would do anything to get money (including hurting or misleading others to make a profit), many of them grew up without a father or positive male figure to show them what real manhood is, many of them grew up emulating white gangsters (scarface, robert deniro roles and other mob characters), many of them had family and friends viciously murdered or maimed (baby's sister and father were killed horribly), many of them have grown up emulating men that mistreat women like the ones in gangster movies, pornography etc.

Given all of the abuse they’ve suffered why do they continue to spew hate even when they have so much money:

1) those who have been abused abuse others when their abuse hasn’t been properly dealt with in a therapeutic way

2) record companies want rappers to project this hard savage image to their main audience (young white and asian males)

what is the ultimate result of only seeing a whole group of people in one way:

if you only see a group of people in a savage way then you will think that all of them are savages and you won’t mind if they go to jail in large numbers or kill and murder each other because you’ll think that this way of living is their nature and you won’t have sympathy for them

the first step to killing or mis-using someone is to first see them as less than human

you’ll also get a superiority complex, thinking that you are better than them and that you are not as evil as them

what should we do about it:

gain knowledge about this whole process

know intently what the record companies are doing to you and how they are trying to brainwash you and don’t buy into it.

always, always, always ask questions

think for yourself

and if you really want to scare other people know something about your history and their history


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Black people just don't get it: The most important part of an election is before the vote not during.

When you want to do something in life, you can't just hope that things will get better. You have to make sure that they will be better by doing the necessary things to make that idea a reality. The same principle goes with politics.

If we want to see real progress in the Black community amongst the average person then we are going to have to BUY our politicians. Now I know this sounds so immoral and indecent, but this is the way politics is run in America. You have to pay to play.

If you want to ensure that a politician works in the benefit of the people of that district then you have to pay them substantial amounts of money to see that they do just that. And then you get the people out to vote for him.

Let me explain something. Politics is all about money, period. When you elect a person to represent you, that person has access to millions if not billions of dollars that they give away to their constituency in the form of grants, guaranteed loans, contracts etc.

And this is why we vote people into office. Not so we can get our nuts off by telling the world that we have a Black this and a Black that. Not so we can get somebody cute into office, but because that person is going to bring us back the money that we need to do what we have to do to make our communities better.

This is the one and only reason you elect people to represent you because when the time comes to decide who gets what you want your honcho to be in their telling the others "see me over."

Now is Obama going to do this.

Is he going to designate a significant amount of resources to enhancing the lives of Blacks in America. Who knows. What I do know is that we can't just assume that he will. We have to pay him off, put an agenda in front of his face and say "this is what you need to do for us."

Black people are supposedly only 12 to 15% of the population of this nation (all nationalities (Caribbean, African and others)). So if you give us a small portion of the contracts, subsidies and other benefits we'll be OK.

A few billion invested in the lives of Blacks can dramatically improve our condition in this nation. But we have to pay him off in order to have a chance of getting what we want.

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That's it! I gotta add the horoscope signs in my teachings on relationships!

I was on E's site looking at her horoscope profile (I also checked out Nicole's) and I thought maybe I should check mine out. What I found out frightened me so much because it was eerily true. Before I get started I just want to say that our ancestors in Africa found out all of this information by looking at patterns in the sky and by seeing similarities in many different human beings (and we call our civilization advanced). Egyptians were the first one to discover this information and of course they were black. You can get yours here.

But anyway, just thought I'd share my profile with y'all because I'm such a narcissist, lol. But there will still be a benefit to y'all anytime you deal with a Pisces man. And awaaaaaaaay we go.





There are basically two types of Pisces men - those who go against the tide and those who go where it takes them. The former types remain on the lookout for the right opportunity, struggle against the world to utilize its full potential and triumph over life. The latter types remain tangled in their dreams (yes), may not notice even when the opportunity knocks at the door and may miss the bright sunlight of success. A Piscean man needs to develop the personality traits of resolute judgment and unwavering actions to realize his ambitions and be a winner (knowledge has never been the problem with me, it has always been judgement).



He also has to bury his old, unrealizable dreams if he wants to move ahead in life (this is what I am going to struggle with). All this doesn't mean that he is weak or feeble (try me and see lol). It's just that he lives in his dreams too much and has to will himself to get up and indulge in real action (so true). When he manages to brush off the starry dust from his eyes, he sees the real world and then, goes about doing the business of earning his bread. A Piscean male has a very clever and sharp mind. The moment he starts working towards practical aims, you can be sure that he will win the next 'Achievers Award'(when I was at my best I was always better than the rest).



The only problem comes in making him look beyond those unrealistic dreams. If your fish knows how to swim against the current, you can be sure that you are luckiest girl on this earth (take note ladies, owwww). After we have dealt with the practical aspect of the relationship, lets come to the emotional one. This is something you will never have to worry about, with a Pisces guy. A Piscean man will never ever be short on emotions and romance (most of the time I'm too emotional). In fact, he practically breathes them. If the practical aspect of his characteristics profile is fine, you can be sure you have been rewarded with the best guy in the world (gotta have balance though).



He never holds a bias against any person (it's hard for me because I truly understand that the only reason why people hurt others is because they've been hurt themselves. Really they should be pitied instead of being the source of anger). You will never find him passing a judgment in context of anyone, unless and until he has experienced the same situation in which that person is now. Even then, he will try to understand that person's reasons, rather than criticize him. Accusations don't go down well with him either. A Pisces man is never ever mean (unless he's been really hurt). However, at times, he may say something, which turns out to be quite different from what he intended (weird, lol). He is totally dependable and you can trust him with your darkest secrets.



He is a very good listener and people always come to him to discuss all their major and minor problems (even people I don't even know. Once they get a feeling that you may be listening it's all over. Don't mind though unless they are real negative). When he is with you, try not to burden him more with your tensions too. Throughout the day, he has been listening to other people's troubles and the way he is, he would have absorbed all those negative energies. Now, when he is with you, he needs to get all of this out of his system and rejuvenate himself. Piscean men have such an empathetic disposition that they need to rest every now and then, to bring back the calmness and steadiness (this is the time when my ex used to bother me the most lol).



If they want to be left alone, they should not be disturbed. Closeness and togetherness is good, but let them have their moments of solitude. Give them the space they desire and the heart will only grow fonder. A Pisces man is very sensitive and can get hurt very easily (my main character flaw, but i don't pay y'all no mind). He appears to be confident of himself, but on the inside, he is painfully shy. He needs to know that you appreciate him, care for him and love him ( if I have a woman who I know is on my side, I'll give her the world). He has a very quick temper, but the anger subsides as quickly as it comes.



He will never remain angry for a very long time and will seldom hold a grudge. He has the ability to see right through people's outer layer and that makes it very difficult to fool him (it also makes things bad for that person because I will treat them a certain way based on that judgement). On the other hand, he can fool you if he wants (disregard this) and such situations will arise frequently, since he likes to keep his own affairs to himself. A Piscean man may speak a small lie once in a while (make pretend you didn't read that). This is because he has some secret fear of revealing all about himself. However, you don't need to worry, as these lies will always be completely harmless and help keep his imagination running.



Jealously is not one of the personality traits of a Pisces. He trusts you totally, but remember he is also a man and will definitely expect loyalty from you. As far as he is concerned, you will get plenty of reasons to be jealous, as he will have close friends of both the sexes. He will also appreciate beauty (yes I do), but he will never be disloyal (Was with my ex for 3 years, not once. Outside of my mind that is, lol). That's just not him. If you can cope up with this, you will be rewarded with the most romantic husband, with whom you talk about almost everything under the sun (had a lot of weird conversations).



A Piscean guy is never too cautious about money and you will have to handle that front. In fact, you need to present yourself as the perfect example of a saver and he will, sooner or later, follow suit (I know how to make it but don't trust me too long with it). He learns quickly from the people he admires and respect, so what better person than you to teach him economy. With children, he will be a lot of fun and extremely loving. He will listen patiently to their childish problems (miss my little nieces and nephews), provide them with solutions, keep their imagination oiled and minds active. However, teaching them discipline will be your responsibility.



Remember that a Pisces man is very fond of his dreams. Never ever step on them or laugh at them - he will be hurt. In fact, believe in them and one day, you may be walking on the red carpet besides him(tried to tell em, they wouldn't listen). Trust him (if you do this for me you'll get anything you want and so much more), give him love and keep him emotionally nourished. In return, he will shower you with lots of love and affection and provide you with a happy and rich home. Don't nag or criticize him (sometimes it's funny, but most of the time annoying) and always support him in realizing his hopes (so hard for the modern day Black woman but so many rewards come from doing it). Nurture his imagination and one day, you will find yourself blessed with some incredibly good luck!



While I don't believe that astrology is destiny I have to say that this horoscope was amazingly accurate. Our ancestors definitely knew something, and I have much gratitude towards them for giving us such a comprehensive description of who we are. I highly recommend that you know thoroughly the sign of the person you're dealing with. I will.

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Can somebody please tell me what an independent woman is?

This woman has done a lot to screw the minds of Black women up eveywhere.

There is no such thing as an independent woman.

Never has been never will be.

That's just a ploy to bifurcate black men and black women from each other even more.

Women, just like men, depend on other human beings in order to survive.

Do you have your own farms to make your own food? No.

Do you own a personal sweatshop in your basement to make your shoes and dresses? No.

And if you do, did you go out and pick the cotton to make that stuff?

Do you have your own nuclear missiles to protect you from people who might want to kill you?

The only reason why Black women have more choices in the world is because there are lots of employers out there who need capable women to work for them.

That's it!

And when you look at those employers who you work for what you're gonna find out is that they are, in fact, MEN!

Might not be that many Black men but they are men none the less.

So you are still dependent on them to maintain your job, your livelihood, your survival.

Having more choices and being independent are two different things.

Please give me your definition of what an independent Black woman is before my head explodes!

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