Saturday, November 8, 2008

Do You Think That Seeking Revenge On Someone Who's Wronged You Is A Bad Thing?

I dont like to get on anybody.

Im very laid back and even if you've wronged me in some way i dont hold grudges.

But sometimes it's hard to keep your composure when someone is constantly pushing your buttons.

You know what i'm saying?

Most people I can pretty much shrug off without looking the other way.

But there are some that you think need to be taught a lesson.

Im in a situation now where i'm going through some rough circumstances, thus causing me a good deal of stress.

Is it wrong to take that stress out on someone that has wronged you in the past?

I know that we believe in the christian theology that you should turn the other cheek or whatever.

How many of us actually do that when it comes to our own people?

I dont know.

I dont forget anything!

And if someone has wronged me in the past i can still remember it years and years down the road and live it out vividly in my imagination.

I never forget.

I dont know i just think some poeple need to be taught a lesson.

Revenge may be petty but its so sweet sometimes lol.

Whatta ya say.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Revenge sure 'is' sweet sometimes but, eventually, we realise 'tis not really worth it.

James Tubman said...

i agree with that

but sometimes you can use your enemies to become a better person

letting it cconsume your life is not good

Anonymous said...

the term revenge being used shows a person's maturity... revenge is something that children say... as an adult you should have other responsibilities to the point that you dont have time for revenge... or either be mature enough to compartmentalize your anger... the difference between the people that do and the people that dont represents the difference between the people that are in jail and the people that are walking free

I live by the idea of Karma... if someone has indeed wronged you then it will come back on them cosmically and is not the responsibility of any man to feel getting back at them is their job.

In due time everyone gets what their due and the signs say that the revenge you bestow does not end with you... and yes that cycle continues and your wrong retaliation will come back on you.

So in essence wronging someone for wronging you will only lead to you being wronged again... and the cycle continues and who wants to live a cycle of neverendingly being wronged.

Peace my brother!

James Tubman said...

thanx for stoping by

i agree with that statement

i am a firm believer that what goes around indeed will come back

but some battles are small in comparison to others

as long as you dont do anything too bad i dont see what the problem is

sorry i am immature lol

but accepting the fact that i am immature will help me to become a mature person

Strongblkwmn said...

I've been trying really hard not to hold grudges, but it hasn't been easy. I'm one of those people who has a problem letting things go. Fool me once and i'm done with you. As I look back, i've lost a couple of good friends because I couldn't let something go. I'm working on changing that, but at the same time I don't have time to deal with b.s.

lulu said...

revenge is sweet and we as humans do dhere to those things that tug at us emotionally but we are required to live the better bigger life... beyond how emotions , so they dont dictate how we act...haaaaaard, i know, am still learning... then i realised for me to want to revenge means the other person has the upper hand... they hold the power over me thats why i wanna harm them... its cold ego...'how could they do that to me' what annoynmous says is sooooo true... being the bigger man is letting it go... hard as it is... because the pain they cause you should be that maturty point for you to turn the other cheek but also aply tough love, 'let them know what they did was wrong!" you are no one's punching bag... as for your comments...thanks...

IDK said...

oo..u've got comment moderation??

IDK said...

o neva mind my initial comment wasn't saved so i was like wat??
wat i was sayin (before blogger decided to humiliate m:P) was that goin by wat u wrote it didn't sound a lot like revenge to me... or maybe it is.. but it jus seemed more about about settin people straight about their behavior as opposed to salvaging one's honor..(did i make sense??:P)

the antipop said...

i have never been one to go out seeking for revenge, infact i do not remember a single time i have had to revenge on anybody for anything! So really i have no grounds for making an opinion. but i gather if it works for some, then by all means revenge on!

Jennifer A. said...

Revenges actually cause more hurt (if u think abt it)...:)

Buttercup said...

Im also the laid back type, its a whole lot to push my buttons..so im yet to attempt seekin revenge..

Sometimes im scared of the day i'll finally explode n release all my pent up frustrations!

James Tubman said...

buttercup that fear frightens me all the time

i think i repress too much

M. Akamau said...

The short answer is 'yes'. Not sure you wanna hear my long answer!

Diary of a Mad Soul Sista said...

Seeking revenge is the most exhausting shit in the world. You're better off running a marathon, and losing...as it'd leave you less tired, and less bitter. You NEVER win when you seek revenge. You either 1.Dont get to actually revenge, 2.Dont get the effect you want, 3.Dont get the responce you want 4.Do get it, and feel petty for it. 5.Do get it, and feel sorry for it. 6.Get even more exhausted because you're spending more time, thinking about what the person has done to you

Please learn from my mistakes, it is so freaking exhausting!