Denial is not a river in egypt!

I felt i had to write this post to get something off my chest.

most people think that if you dont pay attention to something or just ignore it for as long as you possibly can it has no effect on you.

many of us believe that if we try to escape to some foreign suburb that we wont be affected by the plights of the inner city.

or we believe that its right to just cut off communication with someone even when we still want to talk to them.

we put ourselves through a lot of unnecessary stress trying to escape from and deny that things and feelings exist when they do.

sometimes we are able to find all types of elaborate ways of distracting ourselves from reality but in actuality that thing that you are trying to escape from has influenced your life more than you know.

lets say you met somebody at a place you love dearly.

it didnt work out and you completely want to ignore them.

you dont want to go to the same place you met them at because you dont want to bump into them

this means you have to change your whole life to avoid running into that person

so you arent really ignoring them, you are giving this person too much power (more power than they actually desreve)

aint nobody stoping me from going where i want to go.

i dont get down like that

now of course if somebody fades out of your life naturally because you are moving in a whole nother direection than ok it just happens

i go to sites all the time, "i dont want to talk to them but i dont want to make it seem as if im trying to talk to them, i dont want to initiate contact, or im a G, im trying to avoid them to prove how strong i am.

you are a fool lol

you are stressing yourself out unecessary

just call them or email them if you really want to that bad

i got caught up in that and i wound up feeling dumb because i wasted so much time because of pride (not going beneath your standards)

who created your standards

how did you come to believe what you now think is the right way to go.

always question why you have accepted a belief and measure it against reality.

if its driving you insane then maybe you might need to drop that value

theres nothing wrong with changing a belief if it no longer suits you.

you are going to waist a lot of time and energy if you dont come to terms with how you really feel.

sometimes it's good to distract yourself from doing something that you might regret

thats not always the answer though

and when you finally face that reality that you have been trying to avoid, you will thank God that you had the courage to do it.

get out of old comfort zones.

the more experiences you have the more able you will be to cope more effectively with the challenges in life.