Saturday, January 17, 2009

I dont know i think my problem is my excessively bleeding heart

Why are the most generous people on earth always the most underappreciated.


Look at our nation for example.


We criticize this nation and its leaders so much but if it wasnt for their policies we might not even be protected the way we are.


We criticize our partners for not being perfect but when they are away we miss them.


Thats because you dont appreciate what you take for granted.

And too often we take things for granted and are upset and disturbed whrn they all of a sudden dissapear.

Getting back to me now lol.

Throughout my adult life i havent been able to get on my feet because i always put the needs of others over myown.

Whether it was family or my ex, i've always looked out and worried about others before i did this for myself.

Dont know why.

I have a question for yall.

How do you become selfish lol?

Thats a selfish question but what do you think the problem is?

Is it wrong to look out for yourself before others?

7 comments:

Sheba Jaye said...

You become selfish when you put yourself completely first. When your time is the only time that matters.

I think you need to just focus on what you want. Its good to be kind to others, but when are you going to be kind to yourself?

No its not wrong to lookout for yourself before others. Actually its healthy. LOL!

achoiceofweapons said...

I don't think it's either or. The Bible tells us to treat people as we would ourselves, in acts of kindness and charity. We pay 10% of our earnings for thites but what about the 90% we use and give ourselves first. Feed yourself first then serve others. Just stopping by.
Jaycee

Strongblkwmn said...

I don't think putting yourself first is selfish. It's important to take care of you. I've been taken for granted in relationships and just decided one day that it was all about me. I can't genuinely be there for others if I don't do for myself.

lulu said...

i knowvwhat you mean love, and you should look out for yourself whrn your resources are scarce when your love tank is low and you need me time but remember to love those who even ill use you...the blessing is greater there wghhat you need is grace to do so. humanly speaking, its an uphill task

James Tubman said...

@fantasy... but the thing is fantasy, i really dont have too many personal wants

well i have some lol, but nothing real expensive or serious

i just want to help to make black people the most dominant economic group on earth so that i can see every other ethnic group beg US for once

so that can wipe that smug superior smile off of their faces whenever they see us

its hard to be selfish when your main goals are serving others

i just dont see any real value in my life if im not helping to make other people better

its the damndest thing i tell you


@mista jaycee... i dont know why i cant get that basic concept

i think the problem is im too impulsive

i'll have a good plan of what to do with my life but as soon as i hear one of my family members say they need something or when my ex needed money...

i mean its like i feel like im a superhero or something lol

i just need to save the day and come up with a solution when someone needs my help

im probably the brokest super hero that has ever existed

i dont know what my super power is

maybe making people laugh at my miserable life while that distracts them long enough for me to take their wallet lol

im so corny its unbelieveable

thanx for stopping by


@hey strong black woman... you are a pisces so you might share this predicament

you know the pisces are the most giving in the zodiac

we give all of ourselves and often we get frustrated or exhausted that we dont get back in return

its rough sometimes

how did you deal with your giving issues


@lulu... thank you lulu

whenever i see your comments i know that you are sincere

me time lol

i have a lot of that

or do i

hmmmmm

maybe you should take some your self too sometimes

as far as i see from your blog you help a lot of people yourself

eizzy.k said...

i feel you.
a life of service is a noble and even righteous path, but you get stepped on. alot. sometimes even crucified...

i've been there, but have learnt to be discriminatory in who i help out and look out for. if i trust you and you are one of my friends or if i see you are genuine, i can put you first.
but if i dont know you, i've learnt to turn my back to you.
now thats how you become selfish.
lol

you have a good heart. you shouldn’t let people turn it into stone.

Anonymous said...

Ive got the same problem which is making me crazy more and more everyday. Cause people are so...strange! And they find me strange! I have to learn how to live. We have to learn how to live. It isnt easy. Good luck to you.