Monday, August 4, 2008

What Traits Do You Like Most In A Potential Partner?




I dont know why blogger isnt letting me upload a picture of my future wife Lauryn Hill but it's daggum shame i tell you. So what is it that makes you lose your mind about the opposite sex that you believe to be absolutely irresistable (or the same sex if you swing that way, nobody's discriminating here)? Lauryn Hill is the prototype for me because she embodies so many of the traits I loooooooove in a woman. First of all she's brilliant! Intelligence is an afrodesiac for me (if you dont believe she's really intelligent look at the video above. If you can teach me something or show me a perception of the world that i've never seen before, you got me! She's beautiful of course even though that's not real high on the totem pole because I believe 99.9% of women are beautiful or have the potential to be more beautiful than they are (if it comes down to it and she fulfills me in soooooo many other ways then i might spring for plastic surgery lol). She's confident in the sense that she stands by here beliefs reagardless of what others think of her and regardless of whether she's popular or not. Case and point, her recent concerts have shown her being portrayed as a bag lady or something. I believe, and this is just a theory, that she is presenting herself in this way because she is trying to call attention to the plight that inner city poor and homeless women face everyday. She is dressing like this to call attention to poor and homeless Black women. Who knows. But if that is the case then she is not only brilliant, but she is astoundingly creative. Another trait I love in a woman. She doesn't know it yet but she will be mine someday. The marley guy she's with or whoever she's with now is only marinating it, but it will be mne soon lol. But anyway what do you like? Some people have strange likes like if they have dirty fingernails they wont talk to them. I'm just not going to give a comment but just let me know okay?

23 comments:

the antipop said...

lol. your future wife Lauryn hill? pray tell, what steps have you taken towards conquesting her heart?

Princess K's thoughts of the day..... said...

Wow...good question. I would have to say the following traits are important to me in a potential mate: Humility, God-consciousness (does not matter what he calls him, her, them...as long as he believes), flexibility and a desire to learn and grow...oh,yeah, I can't front..i am a sucker for an eclectic sense of style too...smile...BTW....dirty finger nails are an ABSOLUTE rule out...lol.

James Tubman said...

you can clean em yourself babe

just get a file and you straight lol

dejanae said...

only marinating in it huh?lol
political discussion, humor, poetry, cursing.lol, dancing,

Rich Fitzgerald said...

I have to finish reading the post, but I had to stop and say that the last time I had checked, Lauryn was bugging out, so do you like "crazy" too?

back to reading.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

OK, finished. "Bag Lady Theory", I don't know -- maybe I can ride with that -- but crazy is more convenient. Shameful, but true.

I think what we want in a mate depends on where we are in life. The characteristics evolve. This would add credence to the idea that people fall out of love. I think you can have a basic concept of what you like, but you have to be careful not to get too specific or you shoot yourself in the foot.

Queen of My Castle said...

Touche, Rich, touche. As we evolve, so do our preferences.

James Tubman said...

@the opposite of pop... not many lol

but in my imagination she is mine everyday

@kc in the sunshine band... so i guess good looks has nothing to do with the equation huh lol

you can always tell when someone puts a high value on something because in most cases they dont even mention it lol

its cool though

i havent seen too many black women with humility

but if you know some holla lol

@hey d... humor is very very very very important for me too

sharazad ali, the woman who wrote the book "the black man's guide to understanding the black woman" said that "a black woman with a sense of humor is worth her weight in gold"

i vehemently agree lol

thank you

@rich... big fan of crazy but not physical abuse, stalker, get your brother to f you up type crazy (even though a little wrestling is nice sometimes)

@richy rich... thats what davis said in "black and single"

as a person evolves and discovers different things and matures and gets further in their career or business they loose certain likes they gain others

i dont know

and dont call my fiance crazy alright

she's very sensitive about insults lol

(kidding)

@here is a queen with a castle in it... peace and blessings my sister

welcome back

i agree with rich too in some respects

and i believe that we have characteristics tha are also based on astrology (which a lot of people take for granted)

but i do believe that our signs and the people we are compatible with make up a lot about who we are

Princess K's thoughts of the day..... said...

wow...you really called me out on the good looks things. Why do I say that? Because you are right!!!! But the looks kinda go hand in hand with the sense of style I mentioned. It's amazing how far a crisp white linen shirt can carry a brother in my land.

LG said...

lol@ ur future wifeyyyyyyyyy
somebody wake up!!! lolllll

James Tubman said...

thats crazy because im wearing a white buttoned down shirt right now

All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said...

sidebar:

when yawl get married LO

and i would love to make your scholar warrior list one day and see if u can find a pic of Chekih anta diop

and frantz Fanon

James Tubman said...

thanx

i definately forgot those two

how the heck could i forget them

there is an interview with cheikh anta diop on youtube

fascinating stuff

Jay said...

James tubman and Miss Hill...wait till her husband catches you lusting after her!!! LOL

She is indeed beautiful and her best album to dame imo is the "miseducation of lauryn hill"

What i want in a man.....it keeps changing. I've gone from tall, dark handsome, rich to Kind, caring, intelligent, romantic....see the trend. The character has overtaken the physical :)

Chari said...

I HATE YOU!!! lol I was going to do this post and I still am...now what!? lol

But one thing that I just learned that I will from now look for in a man is one who is active (not over passive) can make decisions take responsible for his thoughts and actions. Smooth brown skin, pretty smile, smells well(that good cologne :)), Christian, heterosexual, open minded, **in touch with his spirit** therefore having a peaceful (not defensive)spirit, intelligent, spontaneous, good hygiene, family oriented, respectful and respectable, caring, able to compromise and you know I can go on and on....

M. Akamau said...

I love when a man is passionate about something bigger than himself...I love when he cares about the marginalized, the poor, the unborn, Darfur and social causes. I think a man with rock solid integrity is sooo sexy (did I say that?). A nice pair of hands doesn't hurt either.:)

Michele

One Man’s Opinion said...

I have not perfect mate. No ideal spouse. No proto-type. Maybe that is why my ass is still single after all these years. Damn me!

Chari said...

lol! sad.

Undeniably...Deep aka Tina-B said...

1st time to your blog & I enjoyed myself.

For me its all about compatibility. If that is satisfied then we can work on the rest. I want someone who is my complement...nothin can be sweeter than someone who picks up where I left off in whatever situation; be it political, emotional, mental, psychological, and physical (etc).

Someone once told me that when you find that special person, the whole world will let you know it.

Peace & Love
Tina-B

http://undeniablydeep.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

I'd say an indescribable divine connection - higher level of understanding - electrifying passion and physical attraction...etc. etc.

Great topic Tub! Thx!

Britt said...

Good topic, i'm still young and growing so I don't have a concrete definition of what I really want, but I know that I can't stand a liar, a man who cannot take responsibility for his actions, a dirty man (meaning he doesn't keep that hygiene on point, and doesn't get regular check ups to make sure everythin is ok). That's all for now ;)

Muze said...

you are a mess, james. marinating it? really? lol.

i like poetic guys.

guys that care about social issues and the world we live in.

guys that treat women and their mother with respect.

intelligence is also an aphrodisiac for me too. whew.

if you know more than i do you will always be a winner. lol.

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