At one point i was a hopeless romantic.
I thought that two people should truly be soulmates to be in a marriage but boy my opinion of marriage has changed drastically in the past few years.
I'm a pisces so i am naturally romantic by nature, but i really dont think there is such a thing as a soulmate.
Like Chris Rock said, "nobody gets a soulmate. all you goin get in life, if you're lucky, is a mate."
Now i do believe that their could be a soulmate out there for you (i know i just contradicted myself but...) but i just dont want to spend all my time looking for one.
Im lazy and impatient.
I've been friends with a girl now from new york for almost a year.
We talk almost everyday.
We dont get along with each other much except when she wants to spend my money but im cool with her so i decided to go ahead and pop the question lol.
She accepted so hopefully we can get married some time soon.
What really made me want to get married is looking at my neighbors.
These two are siblings (brother and sister).
The woman is pushing 70 and her brother is in his mid 70's.
Neither one of them are married.
They live in different houses too.
They are pathetic, always fussing and cussing with each other, old miserable and lonely.
I dont want to be like that so I decided to marry the woman ive been friends with the longest (and the one I knew would accept the propsal).
I like this girl because she's easygoing like me, even though she'll get on your case if you mess up she's quick to forgive and... she doesnt mind having an open marriage.
I like the idea because i dont have to be under a lot of pressure to please her.
If i cant do it hopefully some other guy (or maybe some other girl) can.
And if i slip up she'll be ok with it (even though i'll never tell her unless i get caught in the act).
I dont want to be old, lonely and miserable so i guess you have to make some compromises down the line.
Do i wish it could be a monogamous relationship where we get along very well and we blend together well and we dont have to look for substitutes?
Sure!
Is it likely to happen... I dont know.
In this daya nd age you have to consider that most people are going to cheat on their spouse at one point in time in their life so why not go into the marriage anticipating and setting up a plan on what to do about it when it does happen.
Ive never cheated on any woman i was going steady with in my life.
I probably still wont do it now that its acceptable but i dont care if she does.
I just want a happy woman.
That's all.
I know she wont always be happy but i want her happy more than sad at least 75% of the time.
Thats selfish but what can you say.
So what do you say?
Would you have an open marriage or what.
I know im not the only freak up in here.
