Thursday, February 19, 2009

Is there any advice you can give me on how to talk to women?

Okay i am going to admit it.

I am painfully shy.

I would ask a lot of women out if i wasnt so painfully afraid of being rejected by them.

I dont know why i take it so personally.

I am starting to get out of this mode but i am still plagued with this inferiority complex so what can i do about it?

How can i overcome the gripping, debilitating embarassment and bitchassness that overcomes me when i am trying to talk to a woman that i like.

If you help me with this problem i will be your friend forever.

8 comments:

NaijaScorpio said...

Be yourself. If she likes u, she likes u. I guess talk more on the phone initially until u get comfortable.

Besides, u r going to get rejected at some point whether u r shy not, so man up and take it :-)

James Tubman said...

thank you sting

Sheba Jaye said...

Honestly if you are rejected just know that its her loss. She is probably one of those chicks that complain about not being loved, but won't pay attention to a man that may have those qualities.

Just be yourself, and keep it real. If they can't accept that then you don't need them.

Chookz said...

The main thing it to ensure you are genuine. Women like men who are funny it helps break the ice and helps them not to think about other issues on their mind. Also, don't be over bearing most women like a little mystery and will ask necessary questions if they feel you so don't go bigging up yourself from day one.

Once you can get them asking even more questions about you it mean you have started ticking some boxes in their checklist..

James Tubman said...

@fantasy... but why dont they pay attention to something they say they want

i mean are they lying to themselves

are they just afraid of being hurt

whats the deal with that

there are too many good black men out here who are being rejected by black women

so many black women say that men aint shit but look at how you treat men

its fucked up in the singles world fantasy

do yourself a favor and stay married lol



@dabizness... this is why it helps to call on the knowledge base of your blog buddies lol

what great advice

i wish i had thought about these steps before

they dont have too many books out there for black men who are dating

thanks again

Rebirth said...

from my experience, start by being friends with who u like and dont be too pushy. Too much attention is not good tho......
hope u find someone that'd be appreciate you

Sheba Jaye said...

Women say they want one thing, but really want another. He has to be tall, but can't be too tall. Its a catch 22. Women are always afraid of being hurt, lied too, used, and cheated on. Yes there is, and the black men out there are dealing with so much emotional baggage from chick's past relationships its a shame.

Yeah I'm going to try to stay married, because I didn't like the game when I was single, so I know it has gotten worse. You should come to Charlotte next week for the basketball tournament...plenty of women for you to see. LOL!

Anonymous said...

...so, you will be my friend forever. Cool.